lesbianalolanvulpix:

awfulpigeon:

gurlukovich:

some trans masc people on here are legitimately like “lesbians using he/him or they/them pronouns invalidates our existence and makes people think we’re lesbians” and it’s like….. listen the same people who group lesbians and dfab trans masculine/trans men together don’t care about either lesbians or trans men!

it isn’t the fault of all lesbians (cis and trans lesbians) that transphobes exist and will invalidate your identity. it’s quite literally lesbophobic to claim that lesbians hold more of a risk to you than cishet people bc you’re viewing us as aggressors who are worse than our oppressors like. go outside and drink a long island iced tea

I see this happen all the time within the LGBT community.

“Nonbinary people with crazy haircuts give us a bad name.”

“Trans people with neopronouns make transphobes hate us.”

Or basically any version of “your identity is to blame for stereotypes, assumptions and hatred towards me.”

If your first reaction is to blame and LGBT person for expressing themselves that isn’t palatable to cishets instead of actually blaming, yknow, cishets, then you’ve already lost.

If someone uses he/him lesbians as an excuse to image set you then THEY are the problem. Don’t throw lesbians under the bus. That’s EXACTLY what transphobes want you to do.

I usually don’t add onto posts, but this is also true for people who say: 

• bi women discovering they’re lesbians will enforce stereotypes of bisexuals “picking a side”
• lesbians realizing they’re bi women enforcing that lesbians “just need to find the right man”

Even if every lesbian and bi woman kept that label for life, people are still gonna hate us. You may as well be true to your identity if you find out it doesn’t fit.