fairyling:

fairyling:

the fact that all of this men are blaming ariana grande for mac miller’s overdose rather than seeing that he chose to not seek help is really telling about men & their privilege & entitlement. rather than reflecting on themselves, men will place blame on a woman for their problems. the blame is doubled when she leaves the man & thrives without the toxicity in her life. in this essay i will

actually even scrolling through social media & seeing how men & women alike are placing the blame for this on ariana grande, i feel, is very reflective of our society. a man has died & rather than mourning him or sending condolences to his loved ones people are jumping at the opportunity to send hate to a successful woman who has been through hell & back to shame her for leaving him & finding happiness beyond him but also blaming her for his actions after she left his life. not only does it show how we don’t hold men accountable for their actions & how society actively encourages us to not hold men accountable for the things they do. this also shows how much the society we live absolutely despises women. why is it so easy for people to jump to sending hate to a woman over her ex’s death & blaming her for the fact that he couldn’t get sober despite her trying to help? since when was it her job to fix him? he wasn’t ready to get better so he didn’t. there’s absolutely nothing she could have done & the fact that people would rather turn to her than look at his life is appalling. it’s also appalling how rather than looking at the drug problem that exists in the world & how the system repeatedly fails addicts, we would rather place the blame for this event on a woman.