Self misgendering is gonna happen, but it’s okay! It takes awhile for the people around you to pick it up and you’re no different. You’re not fake becuase of it. Getting out of a habit is difficult! Go easy on yourself!
if you hated pink and/or blue as a kid because of the forced implication of rigid gendering of things that you knew you didn’t want to be a part of and as a kid you took it out on the colour but were able to embrace the colour(s) divorced from the bullshit as you grew up and were able to make your own choices about colour and now feel much more free to like pink and/or blue clap your hands
the spanking debate isn’t all that complicated. you’re either ok with hitting small kids who are completely defenseless and literally at your mercy, or you’re not. supporting the first option makes you a bad and dangerous person, and unfit to be a parent, and im sorry to say but there’s no way around this, no excuses or loopholes. it is what it is
I’ve told this story before and my clam chowder is getting cold but fuck it.
A couple years ago while I was working for a care center during my ece training – we had a big thing about spankings. We went around and asked children who were spanked how they felt about it and what it told them or how it made them feel.
Then when the parents were over, we anonymously read everything that was said by the children on how they view spankings and unanimously it was found that the children never saw it as a growing experience.
It was “painful” “really scary” “I thought mommy hated me now” and we often found it never actually TAUGHT the kids what they did wrong. in fact it seemed to teach them that at any moment your mommy or daddy would just haul up and smack you until you cried and said it was for your own good.
Needless to say I’m pretty sure we changed a lot of parents opinions on spanking and SHOCK OF SHOCKS actually TALKING to their children worked far better disiplinary
I even included my own story, pretending I was telling an outside story “well, I happened to know one person who’s mother only stopped spanking them cause they got tall and big real fast so they could fight back. so there’s a lot of intimidation and fear to your children.” and just – I’ll never forget the dawning look of realization on their faces
The most common argument I hear is, “Look, my parents spanked me and I turned out fine.”
Stolen from elsewhere on the internet but now my defult response: “No you didn’t–you think it is okay to hit little kids.”
Putting it out there right now. Spanking is child abuse. Just plain, archaic child abuse .
I will never understand the reasoning behind why it’s okay to smack a child, but it’s not okay to smack an older parent who is suffering from dementia/Alzheimers. If it’s not socially okay to hit a grown ass adult, and if we are fighting against domestic abuse, then why do accept that hitting a child to teach them a lesson is okay?
You’re the adult. Think smarter. Think better.
It’s been scientifically proven that spanking kids is a terrible punishment, it’s better to take away or add something. Like, you can take away dessert or a toy. You can add chores. Scientifically proven to teach the typical child good from bad until around 10, and at that point it’s better to switch to rewards for good behavior only because they learn to get around punishments.
IF THEY CANT UNDERSTAND WHAT YOURE SAYING TO THEM THEY CANT UNDERSTAND WHY YOURE HITTING THEM! Plain and simple.
My grandparents left their home country as children when they heard the whispering of antisemitism starting in their home town. They got out and fled to America so I and future generations could be safe from persecution and mass murder. Only 2 generations ago.
And now America is becoming that country that they probably would have fled.
If you are not resisting, you are part of the problem.
And yes, I want non-Jews to reblog
Except I’m sorry but it’s not is it? A couple thousand white dudes babbling about jew conspiracies is not equal to Hitler and the holocaust no matter what. A couple thousand vs a few million? Your country isn’t fucking dumb. They FOUGHT to SAVE your kind and lost tens of thousands of men in the process. How about, fucking stop making it sound like the majority is Nazi and actually do some research. Jesus fucking christ.
Funny, since the Russians freed more prison camps than the US, including Auschwitz. The US didn’t care about the camps, they cared about fighting the ally of their declared enemy, Japan. And the US almost sided with the Nazis and had a large Nazi party in our boarders all the way up until (and even a little after) we entered the war.
Also do you know how large the Nazi party was at it’s peak? Just 7% of the German population. Smaller numbers don’t mean shit when they have people that aid and abet them by saying shit like “oh don’t worry they are too few to do harm.”
“My kind” have centuries of actual oppression running through our history, we can sense when something has changed and when it’s coming (back, again), it’s in our blood. Our grandparents and great-grandparents always told us to always have a bag packed, because they were afraid this would happen. “My kind” always know they will come for us again.
Offense but why does literally every dude that says stuff like “oh they’re not actually Real Nazis” “oh so you call everyone you disagree w/ a Nazi” like why are you all so hilariously uneducated and unable to see things as they are? Literally none of them have ever known what they’re even fucking talking about lmao
Most comments that call Trump Hitler are referring to 1933 Hitler, when he first ran for office and later seized power, who drew an enormous euphoric fan following based on hating a particular religious group and a political slogan that roughly translates to Make Germany Great Again. His solution to Jewish people started with encouraging them to emigrate, identification tags, then moving them to the Jewish Ghettos “to be monitored” and eventually to more secure concentration camps. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE was mentioned by Trump or his closest allies as a solution for the “problem” of Muslims in America during his campaign. It took Hitler until January 1940 to authorize the Final Solution, which started the death camps as an official government policy. How much do you think Trump could do to Muslims in about 7 years if given the chance, all before any organized killings begin.
Similarly, the Nazi Party in the early 1930’s was just thought of as a joke, a few angry people due to the bad economy (to the level which would make the Great Recession we just experienced look like a cloudy day) and the need to place the blame for that on a particular group of people. The Nazis gradually grew their support base until they had about 30% support while those in the middle were divided, actually giving them 50% support and allowing them to do whatever they wanted. Germany rapidly went from probably the most liberal place in the world in the 1920’s to becoming the most hateful and murderous place a decade later.
So I have it on the authority of both the animal shelter and the guy that runs the fish and reptile store that this is FINE.
People at the shelter are thrilled to have people come pet/play with the animals to help socialize them, and you can even sign up for scheduled dog walks or other socialization events there! Reptile store guy says that as long as you’re not tapping on the fishtanks or bothering him while he’s trying to help customers, it’s great to have people in the store and learning more about reptiles/getting them accilmated to humans. He even let me hold the boa contrictor once while he was cleaning out her cage.
So go in, be polite and nice to the animals and staff, and have a good time!
All cat rescues I’ve been involved with also look for people to come in and play with the cats, especially kittens, to socialize them.
This makes me feel less guilty about wandering around my local petsmart lol
Lesbian/ace girl solidarity is when somebody’s like “how do you know he’s good-looking if you aren’t attracted to men???” And you look into the non-existent camera like you’re on the office
Lesbian/ace girl solidarity is also when your straight friend shows you an ugly rude piece of cheese boy, tells you ‘isnt he so hot??’, and you have three seconds to make your choice
I have to be honest here…you are 100% right, sorry straight girls
This weekend, activists in Uganda – a country where homosexuality is punishable by death – held their first Pride.
This is the epitome of courage. I have no other words.
this is making me tear up holy shit
This makes me soo fucking proud most of us in places like Nigeria and Uganda especially northern Nigeria, the punishment by law is getting stoned to death if you show any signs of being gay. This makes me sad that Me and thousands of others can’t be themselves but still, this is so FUCKING beautiful I am proud of the people of my African continent!
I just want to make it clear that the photo was taken, and the first Ugandan Pride was held, in 2012. Five years later they’re still celebrating Pride. Despite the fact that they face police raids and arrests, they’ve made this an annual event.
