my aunt talking about her outdoor cats: if they die a few years early because I let them out, so be it
me: -_____________________________-
“the safety of this tiny soft bastard who happens to love me is entirely under my control, but fuck that I guess”
ppl reblogging this post: “but my cats love going outside! I don’t provide any mental stimulation indoors, so they’re MISERABLE when not playing in the street – can’t you see there’s no painfully obvious solution?”
this makes me profoundly stressed cats are living things who absolutely want and should be allowed to go outside if your living situation allows it
me chucking my canary out the window: “you are a living thing who absolutely wants and should be allowed to go outside if my living situation allows it”
Me throwing open my doors: be free, dogs!! May your profound stress be eased!!!!! for my living situation allows you to do so!!!!!!!
Ah yes, let’s let this species cause mass extinctions of local birds in areas they’re not from while letting them drink antifreeze from puddles and climb into car engines and frolic with coyotes, that’ll make them happy
>mass extinction of local birds
Fucking lol
I cannot fathom why you would find it ridiculous that introducing millions of non-native, invasive predators into almost every single country when they have no natural predators just might have an impact on local animals. It is common sense, and conservationists have been telling us for years that cats are one of the leading drivers of extinction in wild birds and small fauna. On the list of predators posing the highest risk to native species, cats rank second, contributing towards the extinction of 63 separate species. You may find it funny that cute, fuzzy little cats pose a threat to wild animals, but the problems they cause for native species is well documented.
It’s interesting hearing ppl be anti-ace in pride month bc I think a lot of people think about ace spectrum as just, not being interested, and that it therefore affects your life to the same degree as not being interested in like, horror movies or a new AAA game might. That it’s a simple “opt-out” of any sort of sexual experience or identity altogether, rather than another set of complex interactions with a highly regimented, scripted societal concept of “normal,” e.g. hetero nuclear family with clear gender roles
You’d think for a community that focuses so much on the topic of representation in media, it would be a little more obvious that like…in almost every story, romantic/sexual love comes up as a theme or sideplot, and in many of them, it’s presented as a critically important key to happiness or success. As a culture, we recognize that anytime a character is in the same room as another character with the chance for there to be sexual tension, then that sexual tension p much automatically exists by default (assumed straight, but if the character’s label is revealed as gay,etc., follows accordingly). When the lead guy meets a woman with more than a few speaking lines and a meaningful interaction, they are a Romantic Sideplot, to the point where a lot of romantic writing is frankly lazy or forced-feeling simply bc it relies on ppl expecting it as default.
And the thing is, that sort of interaction follows you in real life in a lot of ways. It often feels like meeting people starts with the benchline of “am I or can I become sexually/romantically interested in you?” before moving down the lines of other ways to relate. And while I personally never really fell in the “I’m broken, I need fixed” mentality regarding my sexuality (demi-, to be clear), I have felt alienated or kept at a distance in the process of trying to disengage with this unspoken norm, to the point of it kind of becoming my default. As I’ve gotten older, it’s gotten more pressing, and it feels like many spaces for adults come with the caveat of being related to potential sexual/romantic availability
And it’s hard coming to terms with the fact that the world has designated the “most important relationship” as something that’s counter to you in some essential way. Like it’s a bit of a cruel realization to recognize that you’re probably always going to be playing second fiddle or be a step down in status to the people you view as most important to you because your relationship with them is not sexual or romantic. Being ace-spectrum is not opting-out of wanting meaningful relationships, but it sometimes comes with the resignation that you may have to accept that.
But that’s why representation and community matter. There’s a lot more discussion about things like queerplatonic relationships, about very meaningful but non-sexual ways of relating to others, and it’s awesome to see it come up in media, even if it’s just fanfiction. The notion that something like love, or more specifically, devotion, loyalty, commitment, accountability, compassion, or the act of cherishing/being cherished, can still exist for you outside of the realm of romantic or sexual situations, is something I think everyone deserves to see and understand. And I think that’s worth including in the discussion alongside other LGBTQ+ topics
Some guy walked into my house today looking for Bill.
A friend snapped me these photos and it made me so incredibly happy. there are a lot of people trying to keep bisexuals and asexuals out of LGBTQ+ spaces and it warms my heart to see The Stonewall Inn including these groups in the community.
To everyone gatekeeping, look at THIS. Also, fuck you for causing discrimination within a community that is already discriminated against. Shame on you. I’ll fight anyone who thinks bisexuals and aces do not belong in lgbt+. Both flags are at Stonewall, suck my dick.
I dont want bethesda to ever get rid of how fo4 does cutscenes because there is just something special about talking to someone and having a vertibird kill you both in the middle of it
I snorted
I don’t think there’s a better example of the above than this:
Uh excuse me, how can we forget this classic and masterpiece
I was 16. I had figured out I was bi a few months prior. I already dated a few guys, none of them for longer than 5 months. I was told it was a phase.
I started dating a girl. She was also bi, but she had been out since she was 13. In the past, she had dated 2 guys and a girl. We were both told we’d leave the other for a guy, but especially me.
You had no experience with girls before her so how can you be sure you’re bi? You aren’t “really” bi. You’re going to cheat on her with a girl. Maybe she’ll cheat on you too. There’s no way you’ll last. You’re just stupid girls looking for attention. When you grow up, you’ll realize you’re straight. I heard it all.
Can I have a threesome? Why not? You’re both bi. Can I watch you two kiss? Can I watch you two have sex? You’re so sexy together. I’m going to masturbate to the thought of you two tonight. This is a sampling of some of the creepy comments we received, from both boys our age and men too old to have any business talking to us.
About 6 months into our relationship, people were shocked we were still together. At this point, I decided to embrace my masculine side. With guys, I had to present perfectly feminine for them to show any interest. When I buzzed my hair off, my girlfriend kept running her hand over it, remarking on how good it felt. When I opted for baggy flannels and jeans instead of skirts and blouses, she told me how sexy I looked. When I stopped wearing makeup, she said I looked amazing regardless.
Ew, why are you doing that? Are you trying to be (insert lesbophobic slurs here)? What if you break up with your girlfriend? No guy will ever want you. You looked so much better with your hair grown out. Aren’t you self-conscious, leaving the house without makeup? You should really shave. You’re going to let your hair grow out, right? Are you okay? Is this because you’re mentally unstable? Another sampling of the comments I got, from both men and women… including my own mother.
Fast forward 2 years. I’m going into college and we’re still dating. I love her. Sure, some guys are hot I guess, but being with her feels so amazing. Authentic. I’m still bi, and proud to be bi, but sincerely glad I’m dating such a lovely woman rather than the mediocre guys I dated in the past.
Are you lesbian now? No? Well, you’re going into college. Aren’t you going to experiment with guys? Don’t you miss guys? Surely you must have cheated on her by now. No? Then she’s obviously cheated on you. You won’t last through your freshman year of college. Maybe you’ll still end up with a guy. More comments I didn’t ask for.
Fast forward 4 years. We’re graduating college. We’re still together. I’m still presenting tomboyish, and I’m happiest this way.
Another year passes. I propose. I’m going to wear a tuxedo, she’s going to wear a dress. My mother isn’t attending. She barely talks to me anymore. But her family is, and they’re more of a family to me than mine has ever been. Our friends will be attending. It’s going to be beautiful.
