When asexual people say that finding out they were ace that is not the kind of relief that makes you giddy with happiness and knowing that everything is well now. It’s the kind of relief that you get when you finally learn what is going on good or bad doesn’t matter initially. It means finding out you are not alone, not wrong, not sick. That’s what ace people mean when they say they were relieved to learn about asexuality not that it means that all their anxiety, worry or self doubt is now over.
Sometimes it is your fault.. Sometimes you don’t listen well enough, you’re selfish, you’re rude and you aren’t always right. Sometimes you fucked it up and tbh that’s okay. It happens, learn from it, apologize and keep it moving. Just because you fucked up doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Don’t dwell on it
You’re a human, you will screw things up, it’s inevitable. The sooner you acknowledge this and stop trying to be perfect, which is impossible, the better. Now learn from your mistakes and get better
