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i think that… approximately 100% of the time, parents, teachers, etc… have this misconception that neurodivergent kids & teens don’t know anything about how to handle their neurodivergence.

for years, i suffered through people making suggestions of things that were things i had done, and either weren’t worth the effort or they actually made things worse. i told them this, and if i was still having any issues with the same problem they’d say something about “well if you’re not gonna listen to any suggestions…” when I did. they’re the one who didn’t listen when i told them that doesn’t work for me. They assume that because I didn’t try it in front of them (which is often impossible), I never tried it.
I tried doing my homework as soon as I got home. I tried doing my homework at the table, I tried working where I was comfortable. I tried listening to music, I tried working in silence. I tried using a planner, I tried setting reminders on my phone, I tried. I tell people that I have executive functioning issues and they say that I have to work on it like I haven’t been doing that as long as I’ve had to do things and it’s so much better than it was before. I’m as able as I am now because I’ve spent 18 years working on it.

One of my friends has ADHD, and at one point when her grades dropped her parents took her phone, despite her telling them that the only way she can focus on her homework is to listen to music, for which she needs her phone.

I was in a study hall with another friend, who also has ADHD. Sometimes, they would be able to focus and do their work. Others, they would end up being entirely unable to and would do other stuff. The “instructional support” person would start bothering them about it, insist that they try. As if they hadn’t already done so.

I am tired of watching people assume that neurodivergent people aren’t trying, or we haven’t tried. We’re always trying.

yaoi-smasher6969:

maskseller:

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diabolicking:

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fandoms act like pedophiles don’t watch tv, read books, or use the internet. “fiction vs reality” all you want but predators consume content that aligns with their interests. real, actual predators ship adults with minors, possess child porn of both real kids and fictional ones, read stories that show csa in a positive light, etc.

like I can see a predator watching how y’all justify minor / adult ships and feeling validated. they don’t just enact violence outside of the internet. they are real people who consume media just like you and me. those of you who ship children with adults share a space with actual predators

it’s also wild to me that y’all don’t think a pedophile could ever be an artist or writer. I guarantee you they are content creators you enjoy on social media. you’re giving them a space to safely express their interests and you validate their inclination to hurt real children when you promote “hebephilia” as healthy. every time you say “the technical definition of pedophilia is 13 years old and younger”, some adult freak feels better about being attracted to a 14 year old. saved by the bell huh!

you’re harboring actual predators, making them feel great about themselves, giving them a platform in fandom & the ability to harass minors into silence with that platform. it isn’t just desensitizing kids, it’s also desensitizing predators

just like white people felt justified in thinking of black people as all sorts of stereotypes (monkeys, mammies, pickanninies, unintelligent, biologically predisposed to being enslaved, etc) thanks to racist cartoons, justifying pedophilia in fiction is a gateway to them excusing harmful behavior in real life and actually doing it. if that should bother you

76% of people arrested for child porn (cp) which legally includes simulated cp (that’s digitally drawn art,or CGI), have molested actual children. in the late 20th century cp had almost been completely wiped out, but the creation of the internet caused a resurgence and now it’s uncontrollable. but people think enjoying these things in internet fandom are unrelated phenomenon

y’all really surround yourself with people who spend hours drawing cp, writing about it, making headcanons for it, creating communities & organizing celebration weeks for it, discussing it on social media and skype, but then you’re surprised when people who spend their days indulging in the fantasy of adults fucking children… are outed as adults who fuck children. like

(76% of people arrested for child porn have molested children)   (in the late 20th century cp had almost been completely wiped out, but the creation of the internet caused a resurgence)

thanks for the sources! I didn’t have enough spoons to look it up

there are some really vile people trying to interact with this post, claiming that “fiction and reality are two different things.” i’d like to add a source that suggests that the brain is more susceptible to thoughts vs. actions than we think it is, and i hope OP finds it as important as i do.

this is an article about Alvaro Pascual-Leone’s neurology study at Harvard Medical. it’s actually almost a decade old at this point. in this study, he had a group play a simple piano exercise for one week, and he had another group only imagine playing the piano exercise for one week. in group one – the piano-practicing group – a new network of neurons blossomed in the brain to accompany the repetitive motion practiced on the piano. in the group that only imagined playing, the same thing happened

the brain can and does form new neural connections when you only imagine something, even if you take no action. it doesn’t mean that everyone who’s ever had a bad thought is now a criminal, but this is a legitimate study that suggests that a concentrated, sustained effort – like a hobby, or writing, or shipping – results in real, measurable structural changes in your brain. you shouldn’t even need a study like this to prove “you resemble what you surround yourself with,” but here it is.

as a survivor of CSA, i am 100% not okay with anyone engaging with this topic in their leisure time*, and i think that “shipping” is the lamest excuse i’ve ever fucking heard to engage in real, damaging behavior. an abuse survivor who ships “because they’re traumatized” doesn’t get a pass, nor should they consume or create this content. i hate it when this gets brought up because it’s victim-blaming, using severely mentally ill people you don’t even care about as props, and describes a tragic method by which a victim grows into a perpetrator.

nobody’s fucking shippy feels or orgasm is above scrutiny and condemnation, nor are these things above the well-being of other people.

*telling people to knock it off is not leisure time, trust me. i’m speaking about people who enjoy their interactions around child abuse.

summed up:

IF YOU MAKE CONTENT ABOUT CHILDREN IN SEXUAL SITUATIONS YOU’RE GOING TO ATTRACT PEOPLE WHO LIKE TO SEE CHILDREN IN SEXUAL SITUATIONS

GUESS WHAT THE NAME FOR THAT IS

darkflamedmerkitten:

manosukenaitou:

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lesbiananti:

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bye i hate the sexualization of underage japanese girls so much i hate it with every fiber of my being it gave so many people a shitty excuse to treat me badly in the past like anyone who likes ‘‘‘‘‘lo/licon’’’’ can go die

also this is 100% okay to reblog

to the people in the notes: the age of consent in japan is not actually 13 you nasty fucks did you like even read more than one sentence on wikipedia before spreading misinformation about an entire country jesus y’all are shit stains to the core

you. i like you.

also who gives a fuck about age of consent? lmao do y’all really need a law to know it’s wrong to fuck kids?

Also can those nasty pedophiles stop using the concept of “age of consent” wrong? Age of Consent does not mean you can fuck a child if they are above the age of consent. It means kids from that age can manifest consent when having sex WITH KIDS AROUND THE SAME AGE. 

Like, for example, if the age of consent is 13, it means kids who are 13-14-15 can have sex without it being considered a crime; but a kid who is 12 CANNOT manifest that consent and this another (older or younger) kid making sexual advances on them would be considered cocsa.

Adults can only legally have sex with kids if, for example, the adult is still a teen, aka if the adult just turned 18 and they’re having sex with a 17 yo. That’s widely considered admissible and it’s an exception to the rule.

So, no, you 20-something and older creeps fetishizing 13-14-15 yo girls (real or fictional) are still pedophiles, and you’re trying to use a legal argument that you:

1. do not know about because you just read a fucking wikipedia article and did not take years of classes about criminal law

2. twist for it to fit and excuse your awful behavior

Source: I’m a fucking lawyer

Reblog this adittion bc honestly pedophiles are INDEED pedophiles no matter what argument they use and you better listen to a fucking lawyer when they are talking about law

“Source: I’m a fucking lawyer“ is my favorite part