What they say: “I just feel like LGBTQ stuff shouldn’t be shoved down our throats. Stop forcing it in every show and movie.”
What they mean: “No one’s actually forcing me to watch anything. I just don’t expect gay people in shows and movies unless it’s explicitly labeled “LGBTQ”. When gay people appear in something I’m watching outside of that description, it feels like I was tricked into seeing people that I (subconsciously or blatantly) ignore the existence of in real life, and the growing expectation to treat them as equals is actually what I feel is being forced down my throat.“
Not just making it illegal, but making being gay punishable with death.
This is one of the many reasons why I walk by every single red bucket in the run-up to Christmas. They’re not getting my money, I don’t care how nice the people ringing bells are.
Ever since the time they threatened to close all their soup kitchens in NYC if a law that did something as simple as allow companies to extend spousal benefits to their employee’s same-sex domestic partners I have refused to buy from them or donate to them.
It’s that time of year again! In case people don’t know… the Salvation Army is shitty peoples.
Also, the married women are not paid (and therefore can’t qualify for assistance if they should ever divorce, etc). And worth “of course” less than a man.
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In the Army’s case, the agreement for compensation is that the officer allowance be paid jointly to the husband—the check is written in his name. Officially, the wife is a “worker without expectation of remuneration,” and her husband receives 40 percent more of an allowance as a married man than he would as a single man.
It’s called the foot-in-the-door method. First, you propose something that is slightly outside of allowable norms: denying gay people wedding cakes on grounds of “religious freedom”. Then, you slowly ramp up how extreme your demands are, coercing the other side to giving a tiny bit of ground each time, until you’ve shifted the entire fucking playing field. Conservatives are also very fond of the door-to-face method, which is demanding something completely outlandish that you know will be refused, and then asking for something less ridiculous by way of compromise, again resulting in a gradual shift in norms until views that were once considered moderate or reasonable become unthinkably liberal by destroying people’s sense of standards. The combination of these methods is called the “foot-in-the-face” method, which sums up where this whole thing is headed quite nicely.
sometimes it’s just really fucked up to be lgbt+ it’s fucked up that my identity is a “conversation” it’s fucked up that my identity is an “opinion” it’s fucked up that im told to accept people for having their own opinion even if their opinion is directly against my personhood it’s fucked up that in order to keep some friends and family i have to allow them to be “neutral” “iffy” or just straight up in my face homophobic about my identity it’s fucked up that when i call them out on it im told that im not being accepting of their opinions as if we’re on equal footing and I’m being the asshole it’s just all so fucking fucked up sometimes
‘straight men are terrified of showing platonic affection for other men because they’re afraid people will assume they’re gay’ now i hope this doesn’t sound too harsh but maybe if straight dudes, as a group, hadn’t spent decades
vilifying, mocking, and murdering gay men at every opportunity maybe being mistaken for a queer wouldn’t be such a federal fucking issue
like i am sincerely sorry men can’t show affection for other men without fearing for their safety and social standing, but mayhaps instead of blaming fangirls on the internet we could try asking straight dudes to step up and address their blatant homophobia
Homophobia: Murder, corrective rape, conversion therapy, being disowned, losing your job, getting denied housing, harassment, etc
“Heterophobia”: being called a “straighty” on the internet.
Racism: Murder, police brutality, corrupt criminal justice system, not being hired for a job you’re qualified to do, denied housing, racial profiling, hate crimes, etc
“Reverse Racism”: being called a “whitey” on the internet.
Transphobia: Murder, police brutality, being disowned, being kept out of gendered spaces you belong in, getting denied housing, losing your job or not being hired, etc
“Cisphobia”: “down with cis”
ALL OF THIS.
antisemitism: Murder, pogroms, being called sub-human and demons, blood libels, destruction of properties, cemeteries & synagogues, the Holocaust, being too scared to go wearing yarmulka in many public places, hate crimes, holocaust denial, having rocks & Molotov cocktails thrown at your car while driving, etc.
“anti-gentile”: being called a “goy” on the internet.
Ableism: Murder, poverty, pain, loneliness, isolation, physical and/or emotional abuse, idiot doctors, being blamed for one’s disability, eugenics, inaccessible spaces, stares, intrusive questions about medical history, dealing with bureaucracy just to get barebones safety net, etc.
“Survival of the fittest” type says: OK but I want to park closer to the grocery store.
There will be a lot of homophobes in your life who won’t openly hate you. They’ll instead wait for a reason to hate you that is more socially acceptable in their circle.
not to hijack tbh, but this kind of like ‘secret’ homophobia applies to racism too – people won’t discriminate against you for shit they know they can’t get away with, but the minute they find anything else. not all bigots are stupid enough to give that shit away – the truly insidious ones find ways to discriminate without actually playing into MAGA style discrimination and bigotry
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