incest shippers fucking ruined the concept of siblings loving each other everytime i use the word “love” between two siblings i feel like some creep or some poor guy who doesnt know me will think im talking about romantic love and i find myself beating around the bush in every possible way to avoid the word love 😦
And yeah, like other people pointed out it doesn’t only ruin the way we see siblings in fiction but also the way we relate with our siblings in reality and it’s so gross and disheartening
what they mean: i dont know how to handle small animals and consider them lashing out in SELF DEFENSE an insult
Usually what it boils down to is “I’m mad because the cat didn’t act like a dog”.
Pushing fragile things off tables and breaking them: Self defense.
Destroying Christmas Trees: Self defense, I mean the tree attacked them.
Scratching their owner’s eyeball: Self defense.
Scratching their sleeping owner’s face: Self defense.
Jumping on their owner’s back and clawing into their spine: Self defense.
Admittedly yeah
A dog doesn’t do those things because a dog’s version of self defense is to be a good animal who loves you and doesn’t attack you unless you attack them first.
I mean if a cat feels that threatened by everything in their owner’s household maybe the owner shouldn’t have gotten a cat.
Pushing fragile things off tables and breaking them: Playing. Cats are well-known to like to play with small objects. Your cat does not know what “fragile” means and does not understand the distinction between toy and not-toy objects. Place fragile things out of a cat’s line of sight and reach, and if you don’t provide them with enough enrichment items that they go looking for them, that’s on you.
Destroying Christmas Trees: Cats like to climb things. They’re not doing it to spite you.
Scratching their owner’s eyeball: Probably an accident, due to overstimulation when playing. It wasn’t trying to hurt you. Don’t anthropomorphize animals by attributing spite to them. Animals don’t do spite the way that humans do.
Scratching their sleeping owner’s face: Trying to rouse you with its paw, probably gently, because it loves you and wants to play with you.
Jumping on their owner’s back and clawing into their spine: Come on. If a cat is jumping on you, it loves you and wants to be close to you. Digging in with its claws is how it balances itself on an unstable surface and is purely a reflexive reaction. It isn’t intending to hurt you.
99% of cat behavioral problems stem from bored cats. Cats need to climb, need to scratch, and need small objects to play with. I only recommend adopting cats in pairs, so that they can keep each other entertained. Cats are not purely solitary. They get lonely, and lonely cats act out. Once again, your entire problem with cats as a species seems to stem from the fact that you don’t understand how cats express affection and it upsets you that they don’t do so the way that dogs do. Cats aren’t small dogs and cannot be expected to behave as such.
Whenever anybody gets on how they think cats are horrible because they don’t shower you with easy-to-read physical affection I’m left wondering how much respect or understanding they can possibly have for fellow human beings who don’t all fit their exacting social standards.
Protip for men: if marriage is a horrifying concept for you and you think it is an evil trap, do not buy a ring and ask a woman to marry you
I’m way over seeing radical feminist bullshit on my dash. This isn’t even social justice or a real issue.
sorry that not marrying someone you dont loathe is radical feminism i guess?
women: don’t propose or get married if u don’t like the thought of marriage
men: what kind of sjw fuckery
the other bit that this implies is:
If you like your wife, act like it. Even around your friends. Be open and honest about liking your wife, liking spending time with her, and not being resentful of the shared work of building a household. Let your buddies know you can’t hang out with them because you’d rather be home with your wife, whom you like, because she is your legit bff, even though you know your buddies are gonna mock you for it.
Stand up to your buddies. Tell them mocking isn’t cool and you don’t want them to do it anymore. Challenge the other men in your life to be better men.
That is what “don’t get married if you think marriage is an evil trap” implies to men who are married. And while it’s all completely reasonable I imagine that it’s scary as fuck when it’s just so much easier to har de har har the little woman’s such a nag, ain’t she, don’t we all hate being married so much? with other men.
In that context, “don’t get married if you think marriage is an evil trap” is kindof a radical statement.
The number of guys I work with who are engaged who started pulling the “uh oh, life over soon, har har” shit that I have completely shut down with a simple “well if you don’t want to get married, then don’t”…*sigh* And they’re just like, hem, haw, welllll if I don’t then she might not stay with meee, which I respond to with “well, sounds like you need to have a pretty serious and honest conversation with your fiancee about your feelings then” and then the *panic!* look…When you remove that easy “hah hah ball-and-chain” narrative, watch the reaction. Some of them (to a female friend) will mumblingly admit that they love their fiancee and are excited to be married. Others…all you get is fear.
That’s the disservice we do men by refusing to teach boys how to explore their emotional needs. It hurts everyone. I watched three male friends walk into marriages I can tell they weren’t ready for and didn’t want, just because it was expected and they had no tools for emotional self-examination. Two of those marriages are (shockingly) in crisis, a couple years later. One has kids involved now. It’s more than a little heartbreaking. The marriages I see that are working? Are the guys with the emotional maturity to talk to their wives and who don’t care if everyone knows they’re in love with them.
SERIOUSLY.
My friend is getting married this summer and when I congratulated her fiance on their engagement he said to me “Yeah well you know, women. This is what they want so you have to bite the bullet.” and my other friend’s husband who was sitting next to him laughed and agreed. If this is how you feel, don’t get married. Don’t propose. Just…. Don’t. Do it. Any of it.
Straight people think that doing things you really don’t want to do – like marriage and having kids – is normal cos they’re still stuck in a fucking 19th century mindset.
It’s why I know my best friend got a good one, he’s open about how much he loves her and he’s excited to be getting married and regularly contributes ideas and has his own input, it’s nice to see
It filters through as well. Even being gay, a lot of my straight friends don’t understand why I spend so much time with my husband. Because I love him? Because I enjoy his company? Because he’s my best friend? I can’t count the amount of straight people that have told me that they think it’s “weird” that my husband and I spend so much quality time together. The only person who understood was my mom, whose response was: “If you love someone and genuinely enjoy their company, why WOULDN’T you want to spend your free time with them?!”
How can anyone look at their impending marriage and think ‘oh no, it’s all over now’ like???? I’ve only felt so close to so many people in my life, but those small few were like?? I’d wake up in the morning excited to be awake just to look forward to SEEING them. I’d catch myself with this stupid idiot grin in broad daylight just THINKING ABOUT BEING AROUND THEM. I’d sleep easy with them in my head, shitty days became perfect once I spoke to them. THAT’s how I imagine feeling again someday. I think about feeling that way for someone again and it’s like the whole future opens up. Marriage is finding your best friend in the whole wide world and wanting to have a sleepover every single day, and to agree to it and then go around groaning like your freedom is being stolen is a HUGE disrespect. If you have the freedom to share your life with anyone you like and you throw it around like baggage you really can’t expect it to grow, can you? You gotta care about yourself a little more than that I think
All of this.
Not to mention this mentality makes it’s way TO THE DAY OF THE WEDDING. How many weddings have we seen with something like this:
Like what kind of toxic mentality do you have to have to say this as the bride is about to walk down the aisle and marry someone who it’s now suggested doesn’t even want to be there?? How is this cute? How is this supposedly charming? This is supposed to be the person you love and want to be with! And not to mention that you send this down the aisle with a small child (the ring bearer or the flower girls)…I have a special loathing for things like this.
“Stop breaking up with your partner just because they are ace uwu uwu uwu oowoo”
Look Barbara, maybe you’ve never heard someone tell you “no” before but….people are allowed to leave you. People are allowed to break up with you.
Like it or not, some people need sex as part of their relationship. It’s not “bad” or “shameful”. People have sex drives! People get horny! Sex is just how some people like to bond.
I’m not saying they should force you into it. That’s COMPLETELY unacceptable. But if you don’t like having sex and your partner does, that’s kind of a conflict of interest so they have every right to leave you. Neither of your needs are being met, so what’s the point?
EVERYONE has different relationship needs. Some people only like romantic candlelit dinners, some people prefer to go to bars and then grab some McDonalds. Some people are strictly monogamous, and some people are polyamorous. Some people are physically affectionate, some people aren’t. Some people want kids, other people dont. Some people have a need for sex, and other people don’t want it!
Neither you or your “allosexual” partner are in the wrong, your needs just don’t match up! If your partner isn’t happy with you, they have every right to leave and be with someone that they can work with better, and you can find a partner that suits your needs better too!
Besides, guilt tripping people into staying in relationships they aren’t happy with can quickly turn into abuse.
I’ve noticed a lot of people seem to think Aoba loves Koujaku least of the boyfriend-options. In relation to that, most people seem to think noiao is the best relationship in the game and I’ve seen a lot of minao praise as of late too. I am going to really ramble here so get ready.
Everyone pretty much agrees Aoba is good for Koujaku. Koujaku has gone through a lot of dark shit in his life, a lot of which Aoba was able to bring him out of. Koujaku almost took his life but he thought of Aoba, so he didn’t. Aoba saved him from being overtaken by the tattoos through scrap. Koujaku deeply cares for Aoba, he’s always protected him, pretty much all of their interactions show it. But then when it gets to Aoba’s side of things everyone seems to ignore how Aoba feels?
Koujaku was Aoba’s hero. Those are literally Aoba’s words of choice, he looked up to Koujaku and admired him and thought of him as a /hero/ because of how he protected and saved him when they were kids. When Sly took over it was after Koujaku left the island. Aoba’s teasing towards Koujaku is very affectionate, it’s literally joke-teasing. Aoba is clearly unhappy with Koujaku’s reputation among women, which proves to be more of a jealousy thing than a disgust thing, especially in Koujaku’s route when he leaves to investigate the women with Ryuuhou’s tattoos.
Koujaku and Aoba mutually, deeply care for each other and have since they were children. That is literally transparent. Moving onto comparisons though, because this is infuriating.
Aoba is someone who attracts a lot of trouble. As a kid he was picked on for his hair and feminine traits. As a teenager, Sly, who was pretty destructive, fronts. When he gets out of the hospital, things only stay normal for a bit. He needs looking after just as much as Koujaku does.
In Clear’s route, the fact he is a robot is a problem. He malfunctions and essentially dies. Aoba is left alone. (Of course he gets repaired but that took a long time and is irrelevant.) Noiz’s route; Noiz leaves for months after the events of his route and then randomly comes back and expects Aoba to go with him. Aoba is completely reluctant, it’s Haga-san, his BOSS who suggests he go. Mink’s route, Mink straight up leaves with no intention of coming back and Aoba, who has been completely manipulated and abused by this man, has to search for him.
This is worth mentioning because Koujaku would never leave Aoba. Before he had to, but he wouldn’t do it now that he’s back.
Then as far as confessions and mutual feelings go, in Clear’s route Aoba is still unsure of his feelings after being confessed to. In Noiz’s route, Noiz is just really forward and kind of forces the relationship which Aoba rolls with because “He’s young and needs guidance.” In Mink’s route, it is truly debatable if Mink harbors any true feelings for Aoba, he’s a really selfish person and used Aoba completely for his gain.
In Koujaku’s route, Aoba sits there patiently while Koujaku tells him of his feelings. His heart is pounding and he tells him immediately after he feels the same way.
Koujaku’s route is the only to end in the first game with any real closure. The other endings are just “this person came back and a relationship is implied”
Koujaku’s good end is Aoba waking up to Koujaku tickling him, saying that they’ve been dating for three months and he’s been living with Koujaku for a few weeks. Koujaku has cut his hair, which was a longtime dream of Koujaku’s. Koujaku says he’ll treasure Aoba for the rest of his life.
Koujaku’s route has the sweetest ending PLUS the side stories are really cute and re:connect too. Like,, I’m sorry but Koujaku and Aoba are perfect for each other. Aoba loves Koujaku the MOST of the boyfriend-options and kouao should be endgame.
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